Archive for Better Relationships
06.01.09
Posted in Better Relationships, Dating Online, House Of Lifestyle at 6:21 pm by admin
There are a lot of people out there are turning to the net for meeting other singles because people’s lives are just becoming so busy and there’s never enough time. You can find a lot of tips involving singles internet dating but the best advice are the ones that explain that it’s best to be as open and honest as possible so the internet dating website can match you up correctly. Sometimes individuals will ignore the advice they obtain and are dishonest on their profile or make themselves appear a certain way - to attract a certain kind of individual. Honesty is usually the best way to achieve the results you are looking for.
A very good practical tip for online dating is to utilize the best picture (of you) possible. It should be up to date (not some picture of you twenty years ago). You really have to utilize a photo of yourself - not some actor/actress that you consider will appear great to the opposite gender. Your picture is the first thing people will see and should show you in the greatest light manageable.
Many online dating advice that you will find online mention that you should deliver your involvements in a way that you will learn others with the same interests. You should really list YOUR interests and not some popular ones that you believe will provide improved outcomes. You don’t want any surprises down the road so you really should list all your interests, no matter how strange you guess there are.
The internet singles dating sites commonly have some pretty intelligent ways of matching people up but they aren’t perfect. Some will make mistakes! It doesn’t always mean that you are a good match just because a computer says so. You should always check them out, talk to them, email them before determining to meet up.
Lots of individuals are looking for others to meet and if you are going to try online dating sites, you should definitely take heed to these internet dating tips. You should always be thorough when using these places - and remember to be safe. Online singles dating is not assured to provide healthy, safe results. Use your instincts, and have fun!
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11.01.08
Posted in Assistance, Better Relationships, World Of Social Activities at 9:36 pm by admin
Tough I know. This seems like a hard subject to grasp. Especially when your mom is of conservative beliefs. I love my mother, she is a great wife, a great mother, she has taught me all I know on cleaning, cooking, honesty, beliefs and religion. She is a good person. She is an immigrant and also a very conservative catholic.
Raising children in this country especially when you have to adjust to this liberal American lifestyle is tough, very tough.
All of us catholic girls are raised with many things in minds but between the most important are, be true to yourself, be true to the people around you and marry that one guy forever and ever. No going back.
I guess the hardest thing for me growing up was the going to high school and all of my friends got to go to dances and date. I was not allowed until I turned 18, it’s just the way it was. There are so many things that are different between the way her and I think that it is really hard to come to her for advice.
There has been times where I tried, but we think so different I am a much more open person than she is and really less attached to the religion.
I guess I am not as conservative.
What to do? Well I ask her some things that I know she might be okay with and all the rest of the stuff I consult with my friends. Appreciatethe people around you and find beauty in you and in the world.
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05.27.08
Posted in Better Relationships at 4:35 am by admin
Sure you want your guests to enjoy themselves at your wedding
reception, but if you don’t want to break the bank or the law here’s what
you will need to know, including how to calculate how much to buy.
Unquestionably, one of the hottest topics that must be dealt with when
planning a wedding reception is whether to have an open bar or a cash
bar. Why does this particular topic tend to be so controversial?
Well, for one thing, some people will tell you that it would be rude to
invite guests to your reception, then ask them to pay for their own drinks.
On the other hand, an open barat which your guests drink for free,
perhaps into the wee hours of the morning if they last that longcould
leave you with a bill that will forever remain etched in your memory.
Both points of view are well taken. It’s true that one wouldn’t ordinarily
invite people to dinner or a party with the expectation that they will pay
for what you serve. But it is equally true that people tend to be overly
indulgent, not to mention downright wasteful, with alcohol they aren’t
paying for. They will take a sip or two, set their glass down and begin
talking, then walk away. Later, instead of returning for their glass, they
will head for the bar to order yet another drink. So, what’s the answer?
Options, Anyone
There really isn’t a correct answer, but there are options. You could:
*Serve free champagne punch. Since it is relatively light in terms of
alcohol content, your guests aren’t as likely to become obnoxious, even
if they’ve had more than their fair share.
*Have an open bar for the first hour or two. This approach will prevent
you from feeling, and looking, like a cheapskate but will allow you to
keep your bank account in the black.
*Have each table set to include the allocated bottles of wine or
champagne. For example, a table seating six to eight people might be
decked with two bottles of wine or champagne. Since you can expect
each bottle to hold between 4 and six glassfuls, everyone will have one
to two glasses for dinner and the toast. (Obviously, you will want to have
the toast as early as possible to avoid an embarrassing situation in
which guests will be forced to hold up empty glasses.)
*Use the open-and-shut-case approach. This requires purchasing beer
kegs or cases of good-quality beer, plus several cases of good-quality
wine. Since you have purchased the supply in advance, you will
determine just how much is being spent on drinks.
For guests who insist upon drinking until the cows come home or would
like something stronger, make a cash bar available.
*Have waiters and waitresses serve drinks from a tray. This approach is
not only stylish, it is also quite cost effective because you remain in
control of how much is consumed.
Choose a few different drinks to be served, including beer and wine.
Then have the staff circulate throughout the reception area at
pre-scheduled intervals. Perhaps the waiters and waitresses might offer
drinks when the reception starts, then just before or during dinner, then a
few times later in the evening but not throughout the night. With tray
service, you guest will not pay for their drinks, but this will still be a lot
cheaper than having an open bar.
At-home Receptions
If you are planning to have your reception in a home or backyard and
you will not be using a caterer, here is what you will need to know.
In this situation, a cash bar is simply not one of the available choices. It
is against the law to sell alcohol without a liquor license. (You wouldn’t
want to spend your honeymoon in the pokey.)
If the home is not equipped with one, you will need a rented bar (or a
sturdy table or two, dressed to the floor or ground with linen). Plan to
stock the bar or table(s) with beer, vodka, rum, whiskey, tequila, cordials
(liqueur), brandy, gin, wine, sparkling juice, and possibly punch.
Offering a sparkling white wine is also nice. If you are planning to serve
champagne (Although only a sparkling white wine made in the
Champagne region of France can be truly called champagne, people
often refer to any bubbly by that name.), expect to pay more. A decent
bottle (You will only disappoint the true connoisseur, and they are a
dying breed.) will cost between $10 and $12 and will serve seven to
eight glasses. Even at these prices per bottle, you may want to reserve it
for the toast.
Borrow or shop for a bartender’s guide (Mr. Boston Deluxe Official
Bartender’s Guide, for example). For your mixologist, you might also
stock such things as lemons, limes, celery, maraschino cherries, and
olives. You’ll also want to have soda water, tonic water, sparkling water,
coke, ginger ale, and a few other soft drinks, plus swizzle sticks and
cocktail napkins. Last, but not least, remember to have an ample supply
of ice (crushed and cubed) on hand.
Standard Guidelines for Consumption
Expect each guest to have four to five drinks at the reception. You’ll get
twenty-five drinks from a fifth of liquor, providing you’re using a
one-ounce pony to make them with one ounce of alcohol each. Using
one and a half ounces of alcohol (that is, a one-and-a-half-ounce jigger),
you’ll get eighteen drinks per fifth of alcohol. A single case of alcohol
contains twelve bottles. Assuming that you’re using one ounce of
alcohol to make every drink, then one case will yield 300 drinks.
If you would like to serve beer on tap, half a keg will yield 260
eight-ounce glasses of beer. Seven cases of beer will yield the same
amount.
With regard to unopened bottles of alcohol, don’t be too concerned
about over stocking. It is better to have too much, rather than not
enough. Besides, unopened bottles of alcohol can usually be returned
to the store.
The Law and Your Liability
Needless to say, it is against the law to serve alcohol to anyone under
the legal drinking age. The sobering fact is that courts have consistently
ruled that restaurants, caterers, and hosts are financially liable when
minors who are served alcohol are injured, become involved in a car
accident, or break the law.
You can also be held liable for an adult who suffers an injury, become
involved in a car accident, or step outside of the law after drinking too
much in your home. Caterers and restaurants are subject to the same
liability.
Your best protection against legal liability involving alcohol is to plan
ahead and react sensibly. If your reception is to be catered, discuss a
plan of action with the caterer before hand. He or she undoubtedly will
cooperate.
Avoid serving salty foods since they make people thirsty. Foods high in
proteinsuch as meat, fish, eggs, and cheesewill help to keep your
guests sober.
Once a person is drunk, it’s too late to reach for the pot of coffee. Giving
your happy drunk coffee will only make him or her hyper and jittery. If
you need to sober someone up, try to get the person to drink water,
which will dilute the alcohol in their system and flush it out.
By no means, let that person driveno matter what they say. Instead,
call for a taxi or find another driver to take the person home.
About the Author
Jean Bachcroft is a former public relations director, founder of Bachcroft
and Aloha Labels, and the publisher and editor-in-chief of Town and
Country Shopping Bargains Magazine. For designer wedding, holiday,
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05.20.08
Posted in Better Relationships at 12:46 pm by admin
How cliché and hurtful to hear the phrase “I love you, but I’m
not in love with you”. It’s a crock. It’s a noble attempt for
the speaker to feel good about ending a relationship. They say
this to ease their own pain and to make themselves feel like
they bowed out gracefully. It’s bull. There’s usually something
else going on and the recipient usually feels a loss and at
fault. You are either loved or you’re not. That’s the bottom
line. So which is it? The recipient struggles to find out and
enters the darkest of hours searching their heart and soul
trying to find out.
It hurts to hear similar phrases. The recipient feels that there
may be a chance if they are still loved in any fashion. They may
also have found guilt in themselves for many different reasons.
They will rationalize their own behavior and lay the entire
blame on themselves. It’s a natural instinct to do so, but it is
so unfair. The recipient will go through many phases of
emotions; hurt, remorse, anger, and the list goes on and on.
This dark moment can disrupt their lives and cause so much harm.
They will go through a period where they can’t eat, sleep, and
function properly in their daily activities. Why? They are still
in love.
The emotional roller coaster is relentless. The best advice for
this person who is hurting is to share their thoughts and
feelings with family, friends and trusted co-workers. Don’t keep
it bottled up inside. Keeping it to oneself with only intensify
the lasting effects. It’s difficult to be strong in such a
situation, and the person hurting can not do it alone. Support
is the best way to easy the pain, even if the person feels like
a failure or embarrassed over the particulars of the failing
relationship.
The most important thing is to go through the emotions. Let it
all hang out, so to speak. Whether in private or among trusted
individuals, just let it out. It’s amazing what kind of relief
you can have by sharing your thoughts and true emotions. Break
down and cry. Shout if you want. It doesn’t matter. Just get it
out. It’s part of the healing stage.
Denial is a natural feeling also, but there will come a time
when true reality kicks in. It’s a state of mind. How you vent
that denial or accept it will determine your next course. It’s
also a part of the healing stage or acceptance. There is no
right way or wrong way to do this, but you will come to the
point where anger kicks in.
Don’t let thoughts of revenge rule your state of mind. It’s so
easy to find ways to seek revenge. It’s a natural defense, but
it’s not worth it. Remember, you are much better than that.
Don’t allow yourself to stoop to a level that you will later
regret. Try your best to be yourself. Don’t do anything out of
the norm, whether you have accepted the end of the relationship
or have decided to sit back and see what happens. Be an adult
and one day you will be proud of the way you handled you the
situation.
The one thing you can do is reassure yourself that you did
nothing wrong. Your partner had the obligation of communication.
If something was wrong, they should have spoken up. They would
have done this if they truly ‘loved you’. That’s not much
consolation in your time of grief, but it’s the truth.
If you and your partner can work through this dark moment in
your relationship, then that’s a victory that will forever
create a bond that will be so difficult to break. It will prove
to build a stronger relationship than you ever have imagined.
Sometimes it takes a traumatic moment in our lives to acquire a
solid foundation. We make think we have it but the test of time
and life’s trials will prove whether or not we can build that
sort of foundation.
It’s going to hurt your heart and soul, but if it was meant to
be, it will. Have faith. There is always a purpose in life and
we may never understand it at that the time, but someday we will.
Patience is the worst part. It’s a virtue that will pay off in
the end, no matter the outcome of your ordeal, whether you
believe it or not.
The grass is always greener on the other side, and it’s natural
to want to purchase a gallon of ‘Round-Up’ and kill it. Have
patience. Crab grass can grow everywhere but it’s the ‘weed and
feed’ that builds that everlasting strong relationship.
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05.17.08
Posted in Better Relationships at 1:44 am by admin
If it’s a long-term relationship you want, you absolutely must
be willing to make a few sacrifices to invest in your happy
future with the woman of your dreams. You simply cannot continue
to live the happy-go-lucky life of the single guy and expect to
make your partnership with a woman succeed. It just doesn’t work
that way.
Solid relationships take hard work, not just in the beginning,
but throughout your entire life together. Building a solid,
long-term relationship also means making a few sacrifices along
the way. Ask yourself what is most important to you. If your
relationship with your lady is the most important thing…then
you may have to give up certain other aspects of your life to
maintain that relationship and keep it on solid ground.
If you’ve been “going out with the guys” for a few beers after
work on Friday evenings and have no real intention of giving up
your night out…I’ll be quite frank with you. It’s going to
take a very, very special woman who will put up with that for
long. She may tell you in the beginning she doesn’t mind, and if
you are home at a reasonable hour, you might just be able to
pull it off and keep her happy as well. But don’t count on it.
It may all be very innocent in your mind and you can protest
profusely, “But I’m just out with the guys. It’s not like I’m
being unfaithful to her or anything.” But you are, at least in
her mind…in subtle ways the male brain usually cannot
understand.
We all know that one beer sometimes leads to another and to
another and to another. If you can limit yourself and return
home to your lady early in the evening, perhaps you will never
have any problems with her over your “night out with the guys”
ritual.
But sooner or later, the time may come when, before you know it,
it’s midnight and your lady has been home alone all night long.
How long would you stay at home alone every Friday night waiting
on her if she was the one out with her friends? Not for long,
I’ll bet. So ask yourself, is it really fair of you to expect
her to sit at home alone while you’re out on the town without
her? Think about that and be honest with yourself. What would
you be thinking and feeling if the tables were turned? More
importantly, what would you do about it?
What do guys do when they’re out together? Talk about sports?
Maybe. But they look at girls too, right? You may not even talk
to another woman while you’re out with your male friends. You
may not even come within ten feet of another woman, but you’re
still looking, right? Of course you are. What man doesn’t look?
And all women know this.
There is no harm in “just looking”. But if you’re checking the
girls out, you can bet there are girls who are checking you out
as well. It’s the name of the game. Sooner or later, after so
much alcohol has been consumed, you’ll let your guard down.
Someone may strike up a conversation. It may not even be you. It
may be one of those girls who’s been checking you out or a girl
who sees you in the club at the same time every week.
Women know how to play a man. Men don’t always let their brain
do the thinking, especially after a few drinks and a clever
woman knows this. Suddenly, your girl at home isn’t even in your
thoughts anymore. You’re thinking only of the hot little number
standing next to you in a bar and smells, oh, so good and is
smiling up at you so sweetly. Next thing you know, she’s pulling
you out on the dance floor or snuggling up to you. Can you see
where all this may be leading?
OK, OK…so you still go home to your lady who’s waiting so
patiently. But now your mind is on the girl you left behind in
the club and you’re thinking of what might have been. Even
though you haven’t been physically unfaithful to your partner,
you may already have committed adultery in your mind.
But nothing happened, you protest. Maybe not this time and maybe
even not next time. But the seed has been planted. And your
woman knows this. She knows intuitively and senses the subtle
changes which have occurred in your relationship. She may smell
the lingering scent of perfume and she knows that scent wouldn’t
be there unless you were having physical contact with someone
else.
Even without the telltale scent of another woman, no matter how
cleverly you may think you’re hiding your thoughts, you can’t
keep your lady from sensing something has changed. She may not
tell you, but now her mind is working overtime and she’s
thinking things over. She may not behave as if anything is
different between the two of you, but deep inside her she knows
something has changed.
Before you know it, she’s accusing you of infidelity because she
senses it and sees all the signs of it. It doesn’t matter if it
really happened or not. The point is, you’ve subconsciously
given her some subtle sign that, for one brief moment, your
thoughts were on another woman and now she has reason to doubt
you…especially if she detected the scent of strange perfume on
your shirt. That alone is all the reason she needs to be
suspicious.
An occasional night out with the guys will usually not make a
huge difference in your relationship, particularly if your lady
is open-minded and understanding that you need your time with
the guys. But if you tell her, in so many words, that you are
going to continue going out with the guys on a regular basis
whether she likes it or not, she’s simply going to think she’s
not very important to you and other things in your life will
take precedence over your relationship with her. That is not a
good seed to plant in her mind if you want to have a long-term
relationship with her.
Most women don’t want to control your life or take over your
life completely. After all, she needs her time away from you as
well. She does, however, want to be the center of your life and
more important to you than anything else. If you regularly show
her she’s your first priority, it goes a long way toward
building a strong, healthy, trusting relationship with her. By
never giving her reason to feel insecure in the relationship and
proving to her you love her more than anything or anyone else,
she will never have any reason not to trust you and the love you
share will become even stronger.
Copyright 2005 Deborah Willis All Rights Reserved
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04.10.08
Posted in Better Relationships at 4:56 am by admin
Scotland has been a favourite holiday destination for many
years. And now it has a growing reputation as a favourite
destination for couples from around the world to tie the knot.
Here are the eleven main reasons:-
1 There are no residency requirements. Couples from anywhere in
the world can get married in Scotland. You don’t have to live
here. You don’t need UK citizenship. All you have to do is
complete the necessary legal formalities and you can marry
within 24 hours of arriving here.
2 You can get married anywhere - absolutely anywhere - in the
country. On a beach, in a castle, up a mountain, in a hotel, by
a loch… your choices are limitless.
3 You can opt for a civil or a religious ceremony. The civil
ceremony is more restrictive as regards your choice of venue
because they have to be licensed by the local authority. But
there are now so many venues licensed for civil ceremonies that,
in practice, you will always find somewhere to match your dream.
4 A religious ceremony, conducted by a minister can be held
anywhere. I have known them to be held on boats, in lighthouses
and even on cliff-tops! Obliging and occasionally daring
ministers can always be found.
5 Ceremonies can even be conducted by non-religious celebrants,
including certain officers of the Humanist Society.
6 The choice of venues is staggering. From sophisticated Glasgow
to traditional Edinburgh; from the rugged, breathtaking beauty
of the Highlands to the Ayrshire coast; from imposing castle to
pretty little village church, Scotland has it all.
7 You can fly into Glasgow, Prestwick, Edinburgh, Aberdeen or
Inverness airports and be close to your wedding venue from the
start.
8 So many people around the world have Scottish ancestry and
love to search out their roots.
9 What better clothes to wear at your ceremony than the kilt,
made especially for you in your own tartan.
10 And what better accompaniment as the bride enters the wedding
venue than a Highland wedding tune played on bagpipes!
11 And after the ceremony, what better way to toast the health
of the bride and groom than with a single malt whisky from a
Scottish quaich in the country where it is made!
The truth is, there are lots of reasons for you to hold your
wedding ceremony in Scotland. If you are in love, Scotland is
the place for you. If you believe in romance, Scotland is the
place for you. If you long for the mystery of the lochs, the
glens, the castles and the mountains, Scotland is the place for
you.
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03.26.08
Posted in Better Relationships at 1:13 pm by admin
Catch that bouquet of flowers! It is always a thrill lining up in a pool of bachelorettes swarming to catch those bouquets thrown by the bride. Just being one of the audiences can be just as exciting. Tradition says that anyone who catches the bouquet would be the next bride.
Flowers play an integral part in any wedding ceremonies. They have been a symbolism of new hope and a good future ahead. The bride and the groom would surely feel like heaven with flowers blooming everywhere on their reception. More than a decoration, wedding flowers have now been a tradition. A wedding will be quite incomplete without these fragrant gifts of mother earth.
Hiring a wedding coordinator or a florist so that your bouquet will be professionally done can be considered as an option. But if you are on a strict budget, and have some creativity hidden deep inside you, there is no hurt in making them on your own. They can still look elegant and stunning as long as you know what color and kind of flowers to use. The tips below will help you in customizing your wedding flowers.
Choosing flowers
In picking what flowers to choose, keep in mind the theme and the color premise of the wedding. It should match and blend well with the entourage and the bride’s gown too. Another point to consider is the availability of the flower type. Depending on the season, you can order the freshest, the most available and the cheapest kind of flowers. Flowers like baby’s breath, orchids, gardenia and roses are readily obtainable no matter what time of the year.
Preparing the materials
The bouquet that the bride carries on the aisle is where the flowers play a major part. It is very easy to create your own. First, gather up your materials. You will need about three dozens of your chosen flower, a sharp scissor, florist tape, and ribbons.
Making a bouquet
It is advisable to order your flowers on the day of the event and get the freshest pick possible. Start by choosing three roses that you would use as the centerpiece of your arrangement. Puff air into the center of each flower to give it a fuller look. Put them together, creating a triangle. Stack each flower unevenly; each one should have a slightly different level of height. This technique adds dimension to your arrangement. Just continue adding up two to three flowers at a time until they form a dome. After which, you can tie them up with a florist tape at least 8 inches below the flowers.
Be sure to ask some help taping the stem, you might have a difficulty holding all 36 flowers and tying them together at the same time. Finally finish out with a suitable ribbon that matches the color of the flowers and your wedding dress. You can tie them up in a bow. Be sure to cover all the florist tape with ribbons. Carefully cut the excess stems with a sharp scissor approximately an inch below the ribbon. Place the bouquet on a plastic container or a vase with a quarter inch of water or you can store them inside a fridge covered by a loose plastic bag. Finally, spray the flowers with water avoiding the ribbons.
That’s it! That’s how you can customize your bouquet. Remember to check your arrangement in a mirror with you holding it so you would picture how it would look like to someone else’s view. Wedding flowers can still look stunning without sacrificing your budget. Now you are ready to walk down the aisle with that pretty and personalized bouquet of flowers in your hand.
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